“We mortals cross the ocean of this world
Each in his average cabin of a life”
Robert Browning, Bishop Blougram’s Apology 1855
I always had a little difficulty with the borderline between fact and fantasy.
I was taught to be truthful, but the truth is not always satisfactory or
effective, especially in retrospect, so some of it has been embroidered,
sometimes quite lavishly; there are chronological gaps, and certain events are
no longer, when or where they happened.
No matter. This is not a history book.
Of course, it is not reasonable to write autobiographically without reference to one’s own identity. In my case this applies even more because of the peculiarity of my first name, which has been instrumentalized by others, but certainly not by me. Similarities with other persons alive or dead cannot be ruled out. If the person is a figment of my imagination, any likeness to a living or dead person is coincidental and claims to be this or that person will fall on deaf ears! It is up to the reader to decide whether any of the personalities exists or used to exist, not forgetting that truth is sometimes stranger than fiction. In order that my reader may not be unnecessarily beset by suspicions and longings concerning the characters involved, I have renamed nearly all of them. You might want to say this has been done to protect the guilty, for there are quite a few baddies between the lines. But there are also a few angels, to whom I wish to dedicate my literary endeavours.
No matter. This is not a history book.
Of course, it is not reasonable to write autobiographically without reference to one’s own identity. In my case this applies even more because of the peculiarity of my first name, which has been instrumentalized by others, but certainly not by me. Similarities with other persons alive or dead cannot be ruled out. If the person is a figment of my imagination, any likeness to a living or dead person is coincidental and claims to be this or that person will fall on deaf ears! It is up to the reader to decide whether any of the personalities exists or used to exist, not forgetting that truth is sometimes stranger than fiction. In order that my reader may not be unnecessarily beset by suspicions and longings concerning the characters involved, I have renamed nearly all of them. You might want to say this has been done to protect the guilty, for there are quite a few baddies between the lines. But there are also a few angels, to whom I wish to dedicate my literary endeavours.
“All men
should strive to learn before they die
What they are running from, and to, and why.”
James Thurber
Why choose the historic present as the tense most used? Nomen est omen, of course...
What I thought would be quite
easy, wasn't. I didn't want to write about myself as I see myself now. I wanted
to find the little girl I lost on the way here. But on the long journey down
memory lane I encountered so many more people than I had reckoned with that it
became impossible to get them in any organized order of appearance. Awarding
them all the tribute they deserved was an insurmountable task.
To be truthful, I have only
hazy recollections of many of the people who influenced me the most and vivid
recollections of fleeting acquaintances. My only solution to this most
off-putting problem was to tell stories from my point of view and leave all the
decisions to the reader.
So between the covers of this
small book is a sort of fairy-tale about a child - me - who was born into an
ordinary - but not that ordinary - family and set out rather reluctantly,
because a fearful creature inside, to find herself - and never really did,
although she sometimes went to extraordinary lengths to achieve her goal.
Attention to detail has
always tended to blur my vision. Sometimes, before I started writing, I was
confident that I would at least get right those facts of the incidents I
remember clearly, even if I could not re-invoke my feelings. But the opposite
happened. I am often not quite sure of my facts, but I am usually very certain
about what I felt at the time. What I have written is therefore based more on
my emotions than my reminiscences.
The other main problem I
encountered was a totally illogical reluctance to get too involved with myself.
I didn't want to grieve again, or be hurt or disappointed. But I did get
massively involved and had to stop writing on many occasions, so emotionally
drained and even tearful did I become. I
didn't realize until I started re-reading passages that I was on a cathartic
journey to the depths of my being. Each subsequent revision has entailed a lot
of soul-searching. There are periods of total blackness in my chronology, so
the episodic form saves me from having to improvise episodes that have been
blotted out irrevocably.
Forgive me for starting out
on a metaphysical level. As a child I told people that I was a twin and that my
sister had died. I tend to believe the theory that genuine left-handers like me
could have an identical, right-handed "other half". I was happy that
my lefthandedness was not an oddity. Research into the reasons for spontaneous
abortion – where it is recorded, since many unborn children escape the notice
of the bearer - may bring (further) confirmation of this theory. There is also
a theory that sometimes the second child gets lodged in the body of the first
during embryonic development. This has been proven through operations to remove
tissue from lungs or other parts of a person's body, which has turned out to
have features of an undeveloped foetus – a weird thought. My own daughter is
convinced that the encapsulated lump of tissue at the base of her brain that
sometimes presses on the optic nerve and causes migraine is her (left-handed)
twin.
Where much wiser authors than
I have spent their lives pondering on questions I have more or less glossed
over in my own narrative, the quotation below might bring you nearer to
whatever truths you are searching for in yourself.
The original book ended with
the chapter on socializing, but some years after completing the first 42
Episodes, some short, some long, I am going to make an effort to continue into
the years that meant the most success for me as an artist, and the most tempestuous
time emotionally,; a time that led to the catastrophes (bad decisions) about
which my father had warned me and those that were prophesied by my mother.
However, I hope to avoid my biography becoming a pathography, which it isn’t, compared with the lives of many!
As usual in the English
language, Shakespeare has the last word(s) as well as the first, and who am I
to argue?
We are such stuff as dreams
are made on;
and our little life is rounded
with a sleep.
William Shakespeare, The
Tempest, IV:1. 1612
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